My post on Haiti

This post may be 'late' but for a good reason it has been a few weeks since the earthquake and people have been been doing what they can do to help. This is just a reminder to keep on giving what you can  because people tend to forget since it is not in the forefront in the news anymore. And if you are donating online make sure that it is to a respected and legit website a lot of people take advantage with this sort of thing.

The Three Bears Effect

The three bear’s effect is a term that I coined myself (Or at least I hope I coined fomyself) is what happens when you have three individuals two of which are at polar opposite extreme and the third one is perfect because they are just in the middle they are “Just Right.”Let’s look at The 3 bears effect in a racial and gender aspect, by putting up three different race black white and East/South East Asians Racialized-masculinity helps keep white supremacist views working. Just Look at the stereotypes that exist for Black men and Yellow men they are at polar opposites.


Black men-Masculine, Hyper sexual, physically strong, mentally slow.
(Basically what you see in almost every rap video, every tvshow/movie or other etc.)

Asian Men- Asexual, effeminate, physically weak, (or strong but in a ancient martial arts way) mentally advanced.
(What you see in many movies and why an Asian male is harldy the lead male role.)

These are all stereotypes, whether you view them positive or not they are stereotypes which can be harmful whether they are seen as positive or not and they work in favour of white men. So then in comes White men having the best of both they are seen being strong as well as smart and having a healthy sexuality.

That is why all those penis stereotypes exist and why they get played out all the time in the media to boost the ego of white men so that they can be viewed as being perfect because they were just in the middle of both extremities completely normal. Or in Goldilocks words “Just Right.”

Music Box: Countess Vaughn- Wait For Me

Countess Vaughn played Kim on Moesha and it's spin of series The Parkers she often showcased her singing abilites on both shows and I always thought she should release an album. She did in 1992, I have the album and she could have gone a long way. The album is typical new jack swing lots of songs you can dance to and a few ballards. I miss the 90's.

Happy New Year

Happy New year from me hoped everyone had a nice holiday, may 2010 be filled with more joy and laughter than 2009 and what ever new year's resolution that you have made try and stick to it.

Personal Space Invaders

I am definitely a person who loves my personal space, I get too uncomfortable when somebody is really close friends and family are the exceptions of course. I mean it took me about a year to be comfortable enough to hug the new friends I made in high school and college but I have improved now it's only five months.

Because I like having space I do not like when people sit next to me on the bus or train when there are many other seats available for them to sit down. To deter people from sitting down next to me I would often "screw face" hoping that they think of me as the mean black girl and sometimes it works but most of the time it doesn't, I remember one incident the bus was pretty empty and I was sitting by my self a woman got on the bus and was about to sit in the empty seats in front of me but she looked up at me smiled then went to sit next to me even though I had my rude girl look going on, needless to say I was shocked.
Or even quite recently I was standing at the bus stop and a old Indian man stood too close for comfort for me so I moved then he came to stand next to me again I looked him in the face smiled politely then moved down the other end of the station and the man comes next to me again, and moves even closer! I was getting quite scared and told him to move away from me ,which he didn't I clenched my fist just in case the guy touched me. I swear I was close to having a Will Smith "Back up back up, mind your business" moment right there but the man then left after a while thank god my bus came in time for me to leave before he came back.

I was thinking why does this always happen to me even though I constantly screw face to people and it doesn't work my mum says it's because I have such a warm and inviting face and my sister agrees but I also wear glasses and have a whole geeky demeanour which is true I am geeky but this geek can hurt someone seriously when defending herself

"Get Over it"

"Get over it" is a phrase that more priviledge people use when less priviledgee people talk about their injustices. The phrase implies that  less priviledge pepople are whining and complaining like little kids.

Example #1 Black person explaing how colourism and hair issue with black people began to a white person.
"Slavey has had a profound effect on the way black people see themselves."

"Black people really need to get over slavery and stop complaining the past is past."

This is stupid now let's move on and have a different scenario

Example #2 Rape victim talks to her friend about not being ready to date again
"Ever since my rape I find it hard to trust men."

"You really need to get over that and stop complaining the past is past."

You see what I mean stupid and stupid winner of the the first cycle of America's Next Top Model Adrienne Curry subscribes to that thinking.

Now there is a difference between moving on and forgetting about it and what the phrase impplies is that those people should foget all about what happend which is just silly

I have been wanting to do a post about this topic for a while but I have been having some trouble writing it so fell blogger Abagond wrote about the topic in great detail.

“Get over it” is something White Americans say when black people point out a case of white racism that is hard to deny, like that picture of watermelons growing in front of the White House. The phrase means that blacks should not get too hung up on racism, that thinking about it too much will only make things worse. It also means this: shut up and stop being such a crybaby. read the rest

Here is my take on it.

If you and I were messing around and I stabbed you in the arm

• I caused you great pain
• You are upset with me now I do not trust me
• You can't do all the things you were able to do before I stabbed you in the arm.

Now I tell you to get over it because it's all in the past and we shouldn't dwell on it and even forget about it. But how can you forget about me stabbing you when you have to live with the reminder every day?

The lighter, the brighter, the whiter the better?

Posted By Nnena

A lot of controversy has popped up with the appearance of Afro Latino baseball star Sammy Sosa, a lot of speculation is he bleaching his skin, does he have vitaligo like Michael Jackson did his appearance a side effect from years of steroid abuse?

Well there is a lot of racism, colourism and hair-ism in the Dominican republic a rejection for all things black. (Of course I don't apply this to all Afro-Dominicans who are very much proud to be Black.) So bleaching his skin and straightening his hair because the "good hair, bad hair." thing effects both men and women contrary to popular belief. But also look at his eyes he has blue contacts in.

What I have noticed from reading different post that discuss Sammy is that people are giving him a little bit more...hope? I guess they are hoping to believe that it's a side effect from the steroids or its an illness. While with Lil Kim and her appearance it's pretty much shout "it's self hatred!" so maybe a little bit of sexism.

I am going to be honest and voice my opinion I think both Lil Kim and Sammy Sosa are suffering from self hatred and have using skin bleaching cream and Lil Kim is suffering from Body Dismorphic Sydrome.
Most people reading will probably ask what about Micheal Jackson? I am a fan of all three stars by the way so I hope I do not appear to be bias. Michael suffered from body dismorphia that could have stemmed from self hatred but not from a racial stand point because he did take much pride in his black heritage and of course the pigmentation of his skin was due to vitiligo which was proven in his post mortem.

Now some could argue that just because they have purposely lightend their skin that it is not self hatred and point out to white people that tan their skin. You have to look at the history behind both.

The light skin, dark skin complex came from slavery just like the good hair, bad hair thing did too. The black slaves that were lighter and had a looser texture of hair were usually the off spring of the white slave master so they worked in the house and were sometimes given their freedom if they passed the brown paper bag and comb test then they were set.

The history of tanning happend when Coco Chanel came back from vacation and had a tan, she had time to out and enjoy the sun and not be in a room and look "pasty" a tan showed that you had leisure time which equated with wealth. Now do I belive that some people who tan do it because of self hatred yes I do belive that they do exisit.